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GAT II, Part 2: Cycles of Abuse

Someone over on Mike Rinder’s blog commented on one of Mike’s posts about GAT II:

“Please, please come back! We’re different now! We’ve changed! This sounds like a plea from an abuser to their victim.

The commenter was pointing out the similarity between participation in the “church” of Scientology Inc and the Cycle of Abuse.

The Cycle of Abuse (also sometimes called the Cycle of Violence) is a social cycle theory developed by Lenore Walker and described and documented in her book The Battered Woman (1979).

Basically, the Cycle of Abuse follows a predictable, repetitive pattern:

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Tension Building
• Abuser starts to get angry
• There is a breakdown of communication
• Victim feels the need to keep the abuser calm
• Tension becomes too much
• Victim feels like they are ‘walking on egg shells’

Incident
• Any type of abuse occurs (need not be physical violence)

Making-Up (“Honeymoon” period)
• Abuser may apologize for abuse
• Abuser may promise it will never happen again
• Abuser may blame the victim for causing the abuse
• Abuser may deny abuse took place or say it was not as bad as the victim claims

Calm
• Abuser acts like the abuse never happened
• Physical abuse may not be taking place
• Promises made during ‘making-up’ may be met
• Victim may hope that the abuse is over
• Abuser may give gifts to victim

Repeat

If you look at the description of these cycles, you’ll see an uncanny similarity to life in the “church” of Scientology Inc.

The “church” and Miscavige are a little more subtle and there are some differences.

For example, most parishioners don’t perceive that they are being “abused” or “exploited” by the “church”.

If you’re one of the parishioners who don’t perceive the abuse, you should examine the stories of Jefferson Hawkins, Marc and Clare Headley, Lori Hodgson, Jenna Miscavige Hill, Marie-Jo and Tony DePhillips, and Luis and Rocio Garcia, as well as hundreds of others.

Do you find yourself “walking on eggshells” in constant fear of being arbitrarily declared without a Comm Ev? That fits the pattern of abuse!

As another example, in the “church” of Scientology Inc, everything that happens to you is your fault. Especially if you don’t like it. But the “church” of Scientology Inc uses the blame game to distract you from the fact that they’re abusing you!

I know dozens of auditors who trained to Class VIII and Class VI only to have the “church” of Scientology Inc change the rules of the field auditing game and cancel their certs. (abuse) Then when they refused to re-train on GAT I, they were declared Suppressive Persons. (blame)

GAT II is the attempt of the “church” of Scientology Inc and Miscavige to reconcile or establish a “honeymoon” period. Did Miscavige openly admit that he screwed up and that GAT I was a huge mistake? That’s the abuser acting like the abuse never happened!

The problem is that the “church” of Scientology Inc and Miscavige have a long track record of being the abuser in the Cycle of Abuse or the Cycle of Violence.

People look at a woman who’s constantly being abused by her boyfriend or husband and say “Why doesn’t she leave? Can’t she see that it’s just going to happen again and again?”

In Scientology terms. she doesn’t leave, of course, because she’s PTS! (It’s my belief that in this kind of  extreme domestic abuse he is PTS, too.)

There is some blame to be laid here, of course. The abuser can be blamed, of course. But the victim can be blamed for not disconnecting (leaving) the abuser.

And we all know that the remedy for PTSness is not to go on hoping that “starting today, he’s not going to abuse me any more”.

Even the most naïve of people can look at the abuser’s track record and say he’s just going to continue the cycle with her until he’s restrained from doing it. By the law. Or by the fact that she’s not there to do it to.

The same thing applies in the co-dependent co-PTS relationship between the “church” of Scientology Inc and its parishioners.

The “hope” that the parishioners have that the “church” of Scientology Inc will get sane and stop abusing them blinds the parishioner to the repeating abusive behavior.

Even in Scientology, the only real “hope” arrives when the person…the parishioner…manages to extract himself from the abusive relationship.

That’s what Leah Remini did. And she managed to take her familiy with her.

It’s paradoxical that the “freedom” that the “church” of Scientology Inc promises only seems to be attainable when one “disconnects” from the “church” of Scientology Inc.

Even L. Ron Hubbard would be ashamed.

— written by Plain Old Thetan

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3 Comments

statpush  on November 20th, 2013

Wow! POT, you nailed it. This is a very important article for anyone on the fence. Personally, a pivotal moment was realizing I was PTS to the church. At which point you either handle or disconnect. I decided to handle, Good Roads, Good Weather, which can work, until church terminals flip and attack (which happens about every three months). Eventually you simply get tired of it and come to realize these guys will never change. At which point you start looking at disconnection as your only other option.

Rhine  on November 20th, 2013

You know the CoS is sending out these horrid mails pertaining to the “honeymoon phase”. They get these terminals to send out “gains” from the parishioners at the SP opening: how they blew off tons of charge, how they cried almost from the beginning, how they realized it wasn’t their fault they were stuck on the bridge, how they can’t possibly convey the words to describe this glorious thing, blah, blah, blah.
What a tear jerking soap and manipulation of crowds. I was so disgusted until I read this post and realized what a common cycle this can be.

crane007  on November 24th, 2013

Speaking of abuse; here is an article that shows the group “Anonymous” at work against a different kind of SP. This may help someone to figure out what team they want to be on:

http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/charlotte-laws-hunter-moore-erin-brockovich-revenge-porn

http://betabeat.com/2012/12/anonymous-launches-ophunthunter-to-destroy-hunter-moore-and-his-revenge-porn-empire/

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